Dos & Donts of a Happy Married Life

Sr NO	Husband, Court your Wife	Wife, Court your Husband
1	Show her those little courtesies which mean so terribly much to a woman. Open her car door, hold her chair, walk on the traffic side when you are going down the sidewalk holder her hand. Stand up when she re-enters the room or restaurant when you are out to dinner.	On occasion, bake him a cake or prepare a special dish you know he enjoys. Whether you or the kids enjoy the dish or not is unimportant. Do it just because you love him. If you send him to work with a “cold” lunch, be sure to include a “warm” note to “warm” it up.
2	Bring her the details of the good news or the exciting things that happen in your business life.	Start every day by telling him how much you love him and end every day the same way.
3	When you attend a social function of any kind, stay with her. Remember how proud you were to be with her before your married. Show her the same attention now.	If you are not employed outside the home, stop for a few minutes before he is scheduled to arrive. Take a quick bath, slip into a clean dress and add a touch of cologne or perfume. Devote a few minutes to catching your breath so you will be refreshed when you see him.
4	Remember: Your wife wants a man she can look up to – but not one who looks down on her. Never, oh never, indulge in telling wife jokes. It is an exceptionally poor taste. After you have gotten a nervous laugh from someone else, your pleasure will be ended but the hurt will linger with her. And if you think for one minute you don’t “pay” for those cute little “wife” jokes, it just means that you don’t understand the female of the species. Take the opposite approach and compliment her as you like to be complimented.	Be sensitive to the fact that the natures of men and women are considerably different. A man needs his ego fed regularly, especially if he is the breadwinner. A simple, assured expression of your confidence in him and the way he is doing things means much. This is especially so when the one he loves praises him for what he does. Make your husband know what he does is important, and that he is important. Repeatedly tell him that you are proud of him and what he does.
5	Women are security conscious to a much larger degree than men. Remind her over and over that she is not only wanted but needed and appreciated. Her feeling of security is greatly increased with the repeated use of the word “love”. She needs and wants to hear it far more often than the average man is normally inclined to use it. Use it often and she will be happier and more secure, which means a better marriage.	Be agreeable and develop a good disposition (the same applies to you, husband). Solomon, the wisest man ever lived, said, “It is better to dwell in the wilderness than with a contentious woman.” In modern society, a man who has an angry or contentious woman for a wife will make her pay for it. He spends unnecessary time on his job and wastes time at the local bar with male and, unfortunately, female friends.
6	Separate some of the jobs around the house. Women’s liberation notwithstanding. I believe our very natures demand certain separation of responsibilities. For example, when your wife returns from shopping trip for groceries, if you are home, bring them in for her. The man should do the heavy work around the house that requires more strength. If you are there, you should take out the garbage, cut the grass, and do any work that is essentially masculine (unless she truly wants that job). Just remember, the home is your castle but it is not a castle without a king, and no king is complete without his queen. Your wife will be delighted to be your queen if you treat her like one.	Do you want to be a queen? Treat your husband like a king and you will give him no choice, because no king is complete until he has a queen. I repeat marriage is not a 50/50 proposition. It is a 100%/100%. I’m convinced it is impossible to make your mate happy and not benefit tremendously yourself.
7		You do the jobs that are essentially feminine. I’m convinced that a contributing factor to many of our problems today is the lack of a clear distinction between male and female. Men should look, dress, act, think and talk like men. Women should look, dress, act, think and talk like women. Any time we have to pause and wonder whether the person is male or female, that’s sad. It’s important to remember that the husband-wife relationship is a partnership. This is especially critical in this day and age when such a high percentage of wives and mothers are cobreadwinners in the family. Reaearch conclusively proves that when husband and wife both work, the wife assumes the major portion of the responsibilities at home. This includes the cooking, washing, cleaning, bed making, and a few dozen other things necessary to keep a household running smoothly.

Too many times the husband comes home from work, sits down in front of the television set, readst the newspaper and/or watches the news, while the wife prepares the evening meal, deals with the children, helps with homework, etc. Obviously, this is not true in all the cases, but by and large, women are expected to assume not only more than 50% of the household responsibilities, but the responsibilities for seeing that things are done and running smoothly. The husband should assume full responsibility for at least 50% of the things necessary to keep the household running in an orderly fashion. It’s unrealistic to expect the wife and/or mother to work a full shift on an outside job, then do a shift and a half at home, and then feel like responding to her husband’s amorous advances. Common sense and fairness, combined with a loving approach, will not only bring more harmony to the home, but will bring vastly improved relationship between husband and wife.
As my mother often said, “Your children pay more attention, to waht you do than what you say”. Let the little boy see the male role and he will grow up to be a man with a natural affection for the opposite sex. Let the little girl see the role of the female and she will grow up to be a woman with a natural affection for the opposite sex.

Thank You Mr Zig Ziglar for this. It will help a lot of modern couples to repair their marriage before they are totalled for ever.

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